TO HATER OR NOT TO HATER

Is it pos­si­ble to NOT have haters? And if so…what is the secret for­mula to liv­ing a hater free life?

Well, in my short (or long, how­ever you want to look at it) 36 years I’ve encoun­tered my fair share of haters. I’ve seen haters in action more times than I can count and I have occa­sion­ally and shame­fully dab­bled in hate. (Masked as gossip)

I think to crack the code you first have to answer the age-old question:

What makes haters hate?

Google any­one in the his­tory of the uni­verse who has ever done any­thing out of the ordi­nary and they will have their share of haters. They could’ve graced every cover of sports illus­trated, they could’ve won 12 Oscars, they could’ve given bil­lions to charity…they have haters.

It’s a fact.

It’s human nature to hate those who have what we wish we had. Be it money, looks, power, suc­cess, health, bless­ings, a great spouse, fame, pop­u­lar­ity, happiness.…if we feel even a bit lack­ing in any of those depart­ments, we open the door to hate. And we take it out on the near­est per­son who catches our atten­tion.

We dis­guise hate with gos­sip, a favorite way to raise our shaky self esteem. If we put down who we are intim­i­dated by or jeal­ous of, we appear big­ger, bet­ter, smarter, cooler.…

So to avoid haters it’s eas­i­est to avoid being any­thing other than aver­age. Don’t dress too well, accom­plish too much, live too large, give too much, be too smart, have too many friends, be too suc­cess­ful.

In other words be bland, bor­ing, devoid of opin­ion and pas­sion. Do not make a dif­fer­ence in this world. Do not do any­thing notice­able. In fact it’s best if you stay in your small mod­est home and avoid all peo­ple. Do not ever ever ever take any risks. With risks come rewards and haters hate when you are rewarded with atten­tion or suc­cess. Don’t do too good of a job in your hope­fully menial job. BE AVERAGE.

But…don’t be too aver­age, or bor­ing, or ugly, or bland. There are haters who like to pick on those unfor­tu­nate too. It makes them feel big. Stay neu­tral. Don’t make eye con­tact. Limit all con­tact with the human race.

Now if all this is too hard for you to do and you have this uncon­trol­lable desire to live this short life we are given to it’s fullest. If you think you actu­ally have some­thing to offer and want to leave some sort of an imprint in this world. If you are blessed with a tal­ent or trait that is above aver­age and want to make the most of it…then you have no choice but to wel­come the inevitable haters with open arms.

Under­stand they come with the ter­ri­tory of being any­thing above ordi­nary. They are like flies…part of this world. They buzz and occa­sion­ally bite. But they are small…annoying yes…but small and ugly. And they in no way have the power to take away what makes you wor­thy of haters. Unless you let them con­sume you. Or you become them. They want you to stoop to their level. It lev­els the field for them. But do your best to stay above them. Swat them away…ignore their buzzzzzzzzzz

Even­tu­ally they’ll move on. And you will remain above ordi­nary. While they remain…well flies.

Now a warn­ing: If you do choose to be your extra-ordinary awe­some self, be aware that every­one has the capac­ity to feel jeal­ousy…. Even you.
Every time you your­self fall into that gos­sipy fly-like trap, you lower your extra-ordinariness to the point that no mat­ter how pretty, skinny, rich, kind, suc­cess­ful, AMAZING you are…you have turned into AVERAGE. You have turned into a hater.

So decide if you pre­fer a hater free life or a hater filled life and live your life in that man­ner. No regrets. No turn­ing back.

Accept the haters BUZZZZZZZZZZ

or stay home ZZZZZZZZZZZ.